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Your First BDSM Scene

Most partners engaging in BDSM for the first time do have challenges trying to plan on how they want the whole session to go.  Indeed, planning such scenes can be quite personal, however, the guidelines below to help you plan better.  -Create your goals You will have to decide on your expectations and the roles […]

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A Constant Adventure

Heyyy, Y/y’all! Okay, so Y/you see something that intrigues Y/you and say to yourself, “S/self…I like that! I think I am using/trying that one!” Okay GREAT! But will Y/you research it first? Find out if it is physically/mentally/emotionally/ financially possible to incorporate into Y/your dynamic(s)? Y/you know all the folks that saw “The Movies” that […]

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Drugs, Alcohol and the Scene

Disclaimer: Just a reminder that these opinions are mine and mine alone based on what I have personally witnessed or heard throughout my journey that I want to share with you. Just as we all know that we should not drink/do drugs and operate a motor vehicle plenty of people among us still do. Often […]

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Location, location, LOCATION!!!

Heyyy, y’all! O/our Thing is vast, exciting, challenging, exhilarating and exhausting under ideal circumstances. But add lack of opportunity to that mix and things can get even more interesting. There are folks who live in rural areas or metropolitan but less Kink positive cities. That sucks, right? Imagine trying to live your best kinky life […]

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Respectful Voyeurism

As I am writing this article, I am sitting in the chair of a hotel room, while two women (One semi-nude, one completely nude) are lying in bed together. The sounds next to me indicate that someone is enjoying a good morning finger-fuck at the moment. Low whispers, grateful moans, faint sounds of moisture…You get […]