A common misconception that causes havoc at times in the kink community is that BDSM, sex and/or love automatically must go together. While this statement may ring true for a lot of people, it is not true for everyone. It is important not to make the assumption. For many of us, BDSM is the richest […]
“W/we Need U/us!”
How many of Y/you have seen the movie “Backdraft?” The firefighters had a motto whenever one of them was about to fall and the others grabbed them and held on. They would say, “You go…WE GO!” That has stuck with this girl all these years. To be so committed to someone that you would risk […]
Treasures
If you are new to BDSM, or impact play specifically, you might wonder what to do about your conspicuously hot post-play marks or “treasures” as some have referred to them as. Kinksters have different strategies for dealing with bruises depending on what aligns best with their lifestyle. You have options… The Boldest (and Riskiest) Choice: […]
Starting and Stopping
ne·go·ti·a·tion /nəˌɡōSHēˈāSH(ə)n noun Discussion aimed at reaching an agreement. Heyyy, Y/y’all! Entering into a BDSM relationship is much like getting into any other type of relationship. However it is also unlike many relationships in many ways. The old phrase “knowledge is power” holds true for anyone who is considering getting into a BDSM relationship and […]
Releasing the Inner Animal
*cue tribal drums* All of us have it…An aggressive inner force, an animalistic energy that we encounter occasionally, usually in times of extreme emotional or physical duress. Sometimes it comes to our aid, allowing the proverbial 100lb mother to lift a car off her injured child situation. Sometimes it lashes out at random, injuring or killing […]