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Your First BDSM Scene

Most partners engaging in BDSM for the first time do have challenges trying to plan on how they want the whole session to go.  Indeed, planning such scenes can be quite personal, however, the guidelines below to help you plan better.  -Create your goals You will have to decide on your expectations and the roles […]

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Treasures

If you are new to BDSM, or impact play specifically, you might wonder what to do about your conspicuously hot post-play marks or “treasures” as some have referred to them as.  Kinksters have different strategies for dealing with bruises depending on what aligns best with their lifestyle. You have options… The Boldest (and Riskiest) Choice: […]

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Releasing the Inner Animal

*cue tribal drums* All of us have it…An aggressive inner force, an animalistic energy that we encounter occasionally, usually in times of extreme emotional or physical duress. Sometimes it comes to our aid, allowing the proverbial 100lb mother  to lift a car off her injured child situation. Sometimes it lashes out at random, injuring or killing […]

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Drugs, Alcohol and the Scene

Disclaimer: Just a reminder that these opinions are mine and mine alone based on what I have personally witnessed or heard throughout my journey that I want to share with you. Just as we all know that we should not drink/do drugs and operate a motor vehicle plenty of people among us still do. Often […]

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Handling Arguments

I think one reason that the answer did not come to me straight away is that Dahlia and I do not argue on a regular basis. I would have to say we have one or two major disagreements a year that would be considered a relationship argument.  For the sake of comparison, my ex and I […]